Monday, October 10, 2016

You're the Master of your Fate

Invictus

BY: WILLIAM ERNEST HENLEY

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeoning of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.


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When something terrible happens to you, do you chalk it up to bad luck or do you accept ownership?  Do you in turn give credit to lady luck when something great happens to you? No one cares about your success and happiness more than you do, so why leave it up to others or plain old luck? I believe that our behavior leads to unintended consequences, therefore we should be mindful of our behaviors.

You have control over your destiny not some outside unknown forces. You have the choice to go where you want, study what you want, get the body of your dreams if you want, and be as successful as you want.
By understanding what has influences on your actions then you can control the outcomes of your life. Acknowledge that you have the power inside of you to overcome challenges and produce positive changes within your life. In order to be the master of your fate you must master your intentions.  You are what you think, don’t let outside influences direct your thoughts; therefore be very aware of your thoughts and direct them in a more purposeful way.


If you achieve what you’ve dreamed of imagine how awesome it would be.  There are no limits when you accept that you are the master of your own fate. 


Thursday, October 6, 2016

Wash Day- I'm Natural

So after transitioning for 67 weeks or a total of 469 days I finally had enough and cut off the remaining three inches of texlaxed hair.  OMG, at first I was like what the hell I just did but then I was like this is the end goal, just a few months earlier than planned. Since I did my chop I have gotten so much lovely compliments on the health of my hair.

Here is a recap of my last wash day;

Products used-

-Oil Mix
-Creme of Nature Sunflower & Coconut detangling conditioning shampoo
-Ettenio Cocolicious balancing penetrating  conditioner
-diluted Apple Cider Vinegar
-Cantu Shea Butter leave-in conditioning repair cream
-Elasta QP olive oil and mango butter moisturizer
-Jamaican black castor oil


[1] Coated my hair with my oil mix and detangled using my fingers them followed-up with a wide tooth comb. Once I felt like it was properly detangled I shampooed with diluted shampoo on dry hair.  I prefer to do it this way so I can get to my scalp clean it properly.  I then hop into the shower to rinse out the shampoo.

[2] Once the shampoo was properly rinsed out I coated my hair with Ettenio Cocolicious balancing penetrating conditioner and sat under my conditioning cap for 45 minutes.  After my hair was cool I rinsed with warm water and followed-up with cool water.

[3] I then wrapped my hair in a towel to get out the excess water, after which I sprayed my entire head with diluted apple cider vinegar and detangled and put into six sections.  After which I wrapped my head in a t-shirt to dry.

[4] When my hair was about 90 percent dry I applied Cantu Shea butter conditioning repair cream to each section and left to air dry.  When it was completely dry I applied Elasta QP Olive Oil and mango butter moisturizer and sealed with Jamaican Black Castor oil before installing eight flat twist.



I have gotten really good at my flat twist so my twist outs comes out  looking really  great.  even though I like the look of my hair, I am planning to shape it up in a month or two so my styles looks polished.



Tuesday, October 4, 2016

7 reasons why relationships fail

A relationship with trust issues, difference in expectations, incompatible, communication is lacking, abuse, boredom, money issues and selfishness are on life support.  If these relationships don’t figure a way to correct these issue they will be dead-on-arrival.

Trust Issues- Lack of trust or loss of trust in a relationship is very harmful. Without trust the life blood of a relationship which is security starts seeping out and eventually causes the demise of it.  Trust issues such as jealousy, infidelity, possessiveness, lack of reliability and dependability will derail a good relationship so consider honesty whenever lack of trust arises. 

Different Expectations- It is not easy for two people to come together and walk the same walk however, as the newness of a relationship wears off the need to have a central goal.  Therefore figuring out if each person wants the same thing from the relationship.  Does he/she wants a Miss/Mr. Right now or do they want a long-term committed relationship.  Knowing your partners priorities and expectations is pretty important in regards to a relationship.

Compatibility Issues- Relationship compatibility includes intimacy, personality type, how they resolve conflicts. Couples these days have a lot on their plate and with all these responsibilities and the daily frustration that comes with them being compatible in how they approach life.  These shared traits will help to strengthen a relationship when it gets really hard.

Communications Issues- Communication issues is one of the big reasons that couples break-up and even divorce. Where there is respect you will find good communication but once the respect is gone then all is left is contempt and mistrust.  Where ever you find mistrust you will find judgement, resentment, sarcasm and criticism.  These negative communications is like a poison and will kill a relationship really quick.



Abuse/ Life habit abuse Issues- Abuse or life abuse issues will certainly derail a relationship.  The mistreatment of a person is a negative in any type of relationship.  This is also true when it comes to life habit such as a gambling addiction and substance abuse. 

Grown apart/Boredom- A relationship has to be refreshed frequently to prevent it getting stale or your from partner from getting bored.  Life obligations such as children and work are coming obstacle that relationships must endure, however as partners you must remain focus on each other so you don’t become strangers.

Money Issues- The longer a relationship last money comes into play and financial incompatibility can cause great distress.  A couple money issues can tap in fears, trust, feeling safe, power struggles and control.  Learning about how each partner dealings with money and having a concrete and united plan can help to stem any issues before they arises.

Selfishness– When your partner only focuses in his or her own needs and pleasure over their partners needs or for the betterment of the relationship.  When the concern is excessively place on one person in the relationship eventual it will lead to feeling of abandonment and the couple will grow apart. Importance must place on each member of the relationship in order for it to work.


May sure you spend time and energy in maintaining and correcting whatever issues that arises to ensure that you have a long and lasting relationship.