Friday, July 29, 2016

Pros and Cons of LDR

With the advent of the internet and dating sites, so has the number of people who are dating people outside of their geographical area.  These relationships can be very tricky even if it’s just one town over, moreover if they are cities, countries of continents away.  While these relationships work for some, it may not work others.  This is due to wide range of factors that normally affects traditional relationships but is magnified due to lack of physical nearness. 

I recently entered into a long distance courtship with a person who lives in another country and it has me thinking; what are pros and cons of having a relationship with someone who is unable to be with you physically every day.

Pros
  • Freedom and autonomy- You have a great appreciation of your relationship and is able to focus on your relationship when you’re together.  You have the opportunity to enjoy your independence without any obligation to be near your significant other.
  • The honeymoon effect- You have the sense of rejuvenation and excitement each time you see your partner.
  • You’re taken- It is nice to get attention from the opposite sex but it is even better to know that you have that special someone.  Better yet when put in a position where you are the odd person you can use the “ I have a skype date” to get out of an dreaded situation.


Cons
  • Technology ties you down- While technology may give us the sense of being together and the ability to share our lives almost instantaneously, it does a times feel more like a restrain.  You might have gone out with friends or relaxing with family and you feel the need to reply to a text or voice note because your boyfriend/girlfriend keeps texting you back.  Sometimes people in long distance relationship use it to compensate for being absent physically.
  • Questioning loyalty- All relationship no matter if traditional or long distance needs to have a heavy sense of trust in order for it to work.  Questions such as “why is he going out with tonight?, Why didn’t he call me back?; are all trust eroding thoughts and questions. Questioning your partner’s loyalty when you aren’t around to keep tabs on him/her is a recipe for disasters.
  • Relationship question by friends and family- This is a biggie because your friends and family opinions carry so much weight in your life that their negative outlook can cause you to question your relationship.  
  • The feeling of loneliness- While you can text, face-time or voice note at any time of the day; having the physical contact is very important and the feeling of loneliness is more evident when you have to attend a function without your plus one.

So the question whether long distance relationship works is valid.  I think the best answer to that question is that it takes work from both persons to make it work.  


Thursday, July 28, 2016

Wash day experience- Co-wash

The last few wash days I have done minimal when it comes to styling my hair because I just don’t know what to do to it.  This process of transitioning to natural has been quite an easy journey when it comes to caring for my hair.  However, styling it is still a challenge, but I do hope that the longer it gets the better my efforts will look.

Anyway here is how this wash day went down-

Prepoo- detangled with apple cider vinegar, and then did a hot oil treatment with my oil mix, under a plastic cap and head tie for an hour.  The oil mix consists of JBCO, coconut, olive, avocado and grapeseed oil. We were having a heat wave in the northeast so I used it to my advantage, and let me tell you it was hot under that head-tie. 

Conditioner- Once my hair to cooled, I rinsed out the oil mix and co-wash with Tresemme nourishing  conditioner.  I like this conditioner, it is a great rinsed out conditioner. My hair felt great and I was planning on ending my wash day here, but decided against it because I wanted to install braids.

Deep Conditioner- Deep conditioned with Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor oil Masque under a plastic cap and head tie for 45 minutes.  Once my hair was cool, I rinsed with lukewarm water to ensure all the conditioner gets rinsed out, and then I followed up with cool water.  I then wrapped my hair in a t-shirt to get rid of the excess water. 



Leave-in conditioner and moisturizer- I then sprayed my scalp with diluted apple cider vinegar and wrapped it again with the t-shirt to get rid of the excess.  I then sectioned my hair in four sections and apply Cantu conditioner repair cream twist and left to air dry.  When it was roughly 95 percent dry I applied Elasta QP olive oil and mango butter moisturizer and sealed with JBCO.  Then put it into two flat twists and call it a night. 



Two days later I undo the twist moisturized with African Pride Shea Butter Miracle buttery crème and seal with JBCO before getting cornrows install.  I am enjoying the break from dealing with hair but I plan to maintain a good moisturizing regimen.


How was your #washdayexperience?

Friday, July 22, 2016

Fitness Friday- Vitamin B12

What is it?

Vitamin B12 is called cobalamin and is one of the 8 B complex vitamins.  Vitamin B12 is also called the energy vitamin.  As with all the B complex vitamins B12 is water soluble.

What purpose does it serve?

All the B vitamins helps convert carbohydrate into glucose.  The B complex vitamins helps the nervous systems function properly. Vitamin B12 works closely with Vitamin B9 (folic acid) to make red blood cells and helps iron works better in the body.

What causes Vitamin B12 deficiency?

  • Gastritis, which is a thinning of the lining of the stomach
  • Pernicious Anemia
  • Weight loss surgery that removes a part of your stomach or small intestine
  • Small intestine diseases such as Crohn’s disease and celiac disease
  • Immune system disorders such as Graves’ disease and lupus
  • Heavy drinking
  • Long term use of acid reducing drugs

What are the symptoms of deficiency?

Vitamin B12 deficiency can happen for different reasons, however in my particular case I have chronic gastritis which is a thinning of the lining of the stomach. Low levels of vitamin B12 can cause fatigue, shortness of breath, diarrhea, nervousness, numbness and tingling in the hands and feet. I first realized that something was wrong when I started experiencing numbness in my feet. 
Vitamin B12 is needed to make red blood cells, which brings oxygen throughout the body.  Therefore a deficiency can lead to anemia or nerve damage. 

What foods are high in it?

The body does not make vitamin B12 therefore you have to consume foods that contains this vitamin.  Vitamin B12 is found in only animal products such as meat, milk, cheese and eggs. Good dietary sources includes fish, shellfish, dairy products, organ meats such as liver and kidney, eggs, beef and pork. If you are a vegan, or not a big meat eater or has a medical condition that makes you unable to absorb vitamin B15, taking a vitamin supplement is recommended.  If you are considering taking a Vitamin B12 supplement ask your health care provider so they can recommend the proper dosage.  Your healthcare provider will normally do a blood work-up to determine if or how deficient you are, then recommend the proper treatment.

I found out I was severely vitamin B12 deficient and have to take a supplement, however if my levels don’t improve I may need to take a vitamin B12 injection. However, since I began taking the supplement my energy level is up and the tingling in my feet has slowly gone away. 

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Wash Day- My First Afro

Getting my scalp back on track has been foremost in my wash day regimen in the past couple of weeks.  Since I have introduced apple cider vinegar to my wash day my hair and scalp has been on their best behavior.

Here is a recap of how this wash day went down;

Prepoo- Sprayed hair with ACV and detangled, then did a hot oil treatment with coconut, grapeseed, avocado and olive oil under conditioning cap for thirty minutes.

Shampoo- After my hair was cool I shampooed with my all-time favorite shampoo crème of nature sunflower and coconut detangling conditioning shampoo.  I did this by applying the diluted shampoo to my scalp and massage, once I have a lather I run my fingers down my hair to distribute the lathers. Then I rinse with warm water and wrapped my head in a t-shirt.

Deep Conditioned- I deep conditioned with Shea Moisture 10 n 1 Masque I sealed it with Jamaican black castor oil and sat under my dryer for 20 minutes.  I love this masque because it leaves my hair feeling so soft and fluffy.  I then rinsed with warm water and once I’ve ensured that all the conditioner was properly rinsed out I rinsed with cool water. 


Leave-In  and Moisturizer-  Before applying my leave-in I spray my scalp and hair with diluted ACV then detangled and put the hair into five sections and wrapped my hair with a t-shirt to remove the excess.  I then applied Shea Moisture JBCO leave-in conditioner to each section and left to air dry.  After allowing my hair to dry for three hours I applied Elasta QP Olive oil and mango butter moisturizer to each section, and did a two strand twist left to dry overnight.  While twisting I trimmed about two inches of relaxed ends.


Styling – I was very happy in the morning that my hair was dry, however it didn’t have enough definition so I pulled it back add a headband and a flower, then fluffy and call it day.  That evening I did about thirty two strand twist using a little shea moisture coconut & hibiscus curl enhancing smoothie. I love the definition that I got.  While doing the twist I snippet off any hair that looked too stringy.



I’m enjoying playing with my hair and I hope to become better at pulling off great styles.