Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Tuesday Thoughts- I'm not my Hair

Where is the natural hair movement going?

The natural hair movement is sweeping the globe and it seems as if at least 75 percent of the black women I come into contact with are embracing their natural hair.  But I often wondered where is it going?  Afros were big in the 60s and 70s but quickly faded away, will it happen again this time around?  I think the movement is different this time around because it is more of a holistic approach more than a political statement. In the 60s and 70s having an Afro was political statement.  I don’t know where it is going but I would hope that it isn’t something my granddaughter will read about, but something she will live.

Is it sustainable?

When I think about the sustainability I truly think if we continue on the same track then 20 years from now it will be the norm just like getting a perm/relaxer was the norm.  We have collectively used our buying power to change the haircare industry.  The sale of relaxers have gone down 26% since 2013 and is trending to go down by 45% by 2019.

Are we our hair?

I don’t think we are our hair, I merely think our hair represents our genetic, ancestry and our fashion sense.   What I think our hair says about us it that we are comfortable with ourselves in our purest form, however that doesn’t mean that a person who has relaxed or colored hair isn’t comfortable with themselves. It merely means that we are deviating from societal norms, ideas and ideals and is saying this is who I am.  Whether I’m the pink hair girl or the woman who rocks her awesome twist out or even the woman who did a big chop and loving it, society has told us we cannot be different.

Should our hair be seen as a social and political statement?


In the past out hair was seem as a political statement and even the federal government had polices that forbids us from being in the natural state.  However, it our hair and the natural hair movement is a political and social statement, what do we intend to gain from it?  I think wearing your hair in its natural state is making a social statement, one in which we are saying we are not what you want us to be.

  India Arie said it best “I am not My Hair” powerful words. 

Monday, May 30, 2016

Wash Day- 49 weeks post

I have simplified my wash day routine without even noticing, this may have happened because I was getting frustrated with the wash day routine.  However, as you may have noticed don’t do super long prepoo treatments of very long deep conditioning session any longer, which work great for me.  I’m happy to report that my hair has not suffer, moreover I think it is thriving much better. 

Anyway here is how this wash day went down;

Prepoo- Detangled with warm coconut oil, then did a hot oil treatment with my oil mix.  My oil contains coconut oil, avocado oil, grapeseed oil and olive oil.  After applying the oil mix I put on a plastic cap and sat under the warm dryer for 15 minutes. 

Shampoo- My scalp has being itching over the last few weeks so I decided to do a clarifying shampoo.  I lathered my hair twice with ORS creamy aloe and rinsed with warm water. My scalp and hair felt so clean and refreshed; moreover my hair did not feel stripped, so that was a win.

Deep Conditioner- I deep conditioned with Crème of Nature Argan oil deep conditioning treatment conditioner and Jamaican Black castor Oil which I warm for a few seconds before applying to my hair.  I then put on a plastic can and sat under my dryer for 10 minutes and then allowed my hair to cool for another 30 minutes. Once my hair was cool I rinsed out the conditioning mix with warm water, after I ensure that all the conditioner was out I gave my hair a final rinse with cool water and wrapped my hair in a t-shirt to dry.

Leave-In and moisturizer-  When my hair was about 80 percent dry I sprayed it with Crème of Nature strength and shine leave in conditioner and applied Kinky Curly Knot today and detangled each of the four sections.  Once each section is properly detangled I applied Elasta QP Olive Oil and Mango butter moisturizer and put in a twist to air dry.

Styling-  My natural hair takes forever and a day to dry so I normally style my hair the day after my wash day.  
So in the morning I did a two strand milkmaid-like twist and off to work I go.  



Day two I applied some African Pride Shea butter miracle moisturizer and did a flexi rod set, the look was so amazing I was on cloud nine, however, humidity did allow me to be great.



I am getting better at styling and managing my hair, with my one year anniversary a few weeks away I am totally psyched.  

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Monday, May 23, 2016

Motivation- empowering yourself

There are times when you feel powerless; this may be because you are in a job you hate or a relationship that is no longer working.  These feeling can erode our feeling of self-worth and lead us into depression.  When you are feeling like this don’t let the evil Queen “I Can’t” get in your head, because when she does then like Alice you will certainly fall through the rabbit hole.

These are the times when you call upon her better sisters “I don’t want to”, “I don’t feel like” and I don’t know how to”, they will help keep you grounded.  The saying goes that it is not the destination but the journey that holds meaning; however we somehow focus so much on the destination that we lose the power to enjoy the journey.



When I am feeling powerless these are a few of the tool I use to help me get back on track.  If I’m feeling a little edgy or restless I exercise to release the energy that isn’t working for me. If I’m feeling down I call upon friends and family to pull me up and out of that space.  Meditation works to calm me down when I am riled up.   

No matter the situation always treat yourself well, give yourself pep talks, show yourself some appreciation, remember that you are not perfect, take full responsibility for your actions and your life and most of all have a support team (your own cheering section).  They are days when we feel like we can conquer the world and others when you feel as if the world in on your shoulder, just remember you are worthy and awesome no matter the situation.


How do you stay empowered?

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Wash Day- Transition Chronicles

After last week’s disastrous styling outcome I know that this wash day I had to be amazing.  So I skipped the shampoo step of my wash day routine and went straight to deep conditioning.  I must say I love the outcome. I am currently 11 months post relaxer so every victory so late in the game is to be celebrated.

Here is how my wash day went;

Prepoo & detangle-  For the last three days I wore my hair in a banana clip so I finger detangled with warm coconut oil to ensure I get out all  the shed hair.  I then further detangled with a comb to get out the excess knots, and then covered my hair with a plastic cap for 30 minutes.

Deep Conditioner-  I deep conditioned with ORS replenishing conditioner and Jamaican black Castor oil under my bonnet dry for 15 minutes, then allowed my hair to cool for another 30 minutes before rinsing.  I first rinsed with warm water to get out the conditioning mix then flowed up with cool water to seal the cuticles.  Once all the conditioner was proper rinsed out I wrapped my hair in at-shirt to remove the excess water.

Leave-in conditioner - When my hair was about 60 percent dry I sprayed the roots with Crème of Nature detangling and shine leave in conditioner then I applied Kinky Curly Knot today detangler from root to tip and detangle.  I normally wash my hair in four sections so I repeated the process for each section, left it to air dry.

Moisturizer and styling- When it about 95 percent dry I applied Elasta QP olive oil and mango butter moisturizer and QGX coconut milk serum to each section then blow dry on warm.  I was sure what I wanted to do with it so I two strand twist each section pinned it and went to bed. 



The next morning I put it up in a banana clip and I had the most beautiful afro poof ever in my life; so good that my Mom commented how much my hair has grown. Day two I did a flat twist in the back and flexi rod set the front to capitalize on the fluffiness and have a style that can last a couple days.




How was your #washdayexperience?  Did you have any triumphs?

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Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Wash Day- Braid out Fail

I started off this wash day feeling super excited because I finally got parking so I could pop into my favorite beauty supply store. This trip was extremely important because I was in need of new flexi rods; my current ones are now too small and are a little worn.  Anyway, with new flexi rods in hand I decided that I would do two-strand twist and then install my flexi rods for a funky look; it didn’t work nor did the braid out the following day.

Here is how my wash day went;

Prepoo/co-wash- I decided to forgo a proper prepoo and instead gently finger detangled before spritzing each section with water and applied As I Am coconut cowash.  Once my entire head was detangled and cover with my co-wash I jumped in the shower to wash my hair.  I did a gentle scalp massage to ensure that my scalp was properly cleaned.

Protein treatment-  I am currently 47 weeks post relaxer and I haven’t done a protein treatment in a while, therefore I grab my Aphogee Keratin 2 minute reconstructor and applied it to the ends of my hair then my new growth.   I then rinsed out the treatment with warm water; after the treatment my hair felt good.

Deep conditioner- Out of pure laziness I wasn’t going to do a deep conditioner but I changed my mind at the last minute when I saw my bottle of Jamaican black castor oil (who can resist!).  To deep condition I added about two tablespoons to my Shea Moisture 10 in 1 renewal systems conditioner and applied to my hair.  I then sat underneath my hair dryer for 10 minutes; after allowing my hair to cool I rinsed with warm water and followed up with cool water.  I must say, my hair was feeling super moisturized which I love.

Leave-in conditioner- After rinsing out the conditioner mix, I wrapped my head in a t-shirt to get rid of the excess water.  I then applied Shea Moisture Jamaican black castor oil strengthen, grow and restore leave in conditioner and detangled and left the hair to air dry.
Moisturizer- Two hours later I applied African Pride Shea miracle buttery cream moisturizer and detangled again.  After which I sectioned my hair into smaller sections and applied Shea Moisture coconut and Hibiscus curl enhancing smoothie and did a two strand twist the wrapped each twist on to a purple flexi rod. In total I installed 13 flexis and off to bed a when.




The next morning……………………………
After taking of the flexi rods I could hear the music from the movie Psycho playing. The horror my hair was not dry and I have to leave my house in 20 minutes; yes I always do my hair last just before I pick up my bags and head to the door. Once I took out the twist it was worse than I thought, so I took out my hair pins and pinned it up.

Second attempt……….
That evening I spritzed my hair with Ettenio refresher sprayed and sectioned my hair into small sections and braid then.  I had great hopes that I would have a nice defined hair in the morning but alas that wasn’t to be, my ends was straight and my roots look puff but I wore it any way and felt fabulous.

I am still trying new things and figuring out how to get my hair to behave but I am coping when it misbehaves and feeling confident that I am fabulous no matter what.


How was your #washdayexperience?  Please join the ladies of the #washdayexperience for tips, tricks and fabulousness.

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